27^th Sunday Year B: Homily by Fr Isaac Chima

Theme: Recovering God’s plan for marriage union

Readings: Gen 2:18-24; Heb 2:9-11; Mk 10:2-16

Dear friends in Christ, today’s readings encourage us to rediscover the original plan of God for marriage as a beautiful union of love and life between a man and a woman for the sustenance of humanity.  Knowing God’s original design or will for marriage will help us to evaluate our current beliefs about marriage, to discover whether we have derailed or are still on track.

Marriage is among the sacraments of the Church that have faced hot attacks and turbulent waves from many people and organizations in our world, particularly in our own days. Let us touch only two of these many attacks.

One of the current waves or attacks against marriage is the project by governments of many nations, international organizations and unions, activists and social entertainers, medical practitioners and scientists to use everything within their power to redefine the term ‘marriage’. They no longer want it to be a union of love between a man and a woman (husband and wife). Rather, they want its definition to also include a union between people of the same sex as well as other queer unions. Regretfully, these people have successfully won over many nations and Christian denominations with their intense pressure. They are also pressing harder on the Catholic Church from many fronts to yield to their new definition of marriage.

Through today’s gospel, Christ invites all those who want to redefine this union instituted by God to return to God’s original design for it. He said in the beginning, God made them male and female (i.e., Adam and Eve), and not male and male or female and female. Hence, whoever supports gay unions or recognizes them as marriage is working against God’s plan for marriage and sustenance of humanity. Accepting gay unions as marriage or human right should be seen as man’s plan against God’s plan for human complementarity and sustenance of humanity.

Another serious issue that is shaking the pillars of marriage and cutting short God’s plan/will for it in our world is divorce and the many factors that lead to it. The question on whether it is right or wrong for a man to divorce his wife was at the centre of Christ’s discussion with the Pharisees in today’s gospel. Instead of giving a yes or no answer, Jesus invited the Pharisees to recall God’s original design for uniting a man and a woman, as seen in today’s first reading, so that they might answer their own question.

In today’s first reading, it was revealed that the creation of woman solved man’s first ever problems on earth, which were loneliness and a sense of incompleteness, for he did not find his match among all the creatures God created and presented before him to name. So, woman was the completion of creation, a creature whose presence in the life of man would make man complete and bring an end to his primordial problem. For this reason, a man would leave his parents and unite with his wife, and both of them will become one. So, God created woman and united her with a man in order to solve the first problem that ensued in the world and to sustain creation; a woman should be a solution and not a problem; she is a helpmate to man in finding solutions to problems.

Why did God choose a bone from a man’s rib cage to create woman rather than from his leg or head. He chose a rib, which is close to the heart, to symbolize how close these two creatures should be to themselves, loving and caring for each other, rather than a bone from the man's leg to avoid making man feel superior to the woman or a bone from the man's head to avoid making woman feel superior to man. If a woman is from a man’s rib cage, then, it means women should perform the function of the rib cage in men’s life, which is supporting them to stand straight and protecting their internal organs. A woman should help a man to stand firm and not to destroy him. Then, as a man’s hand covers the ribs, so a man should provide protection and shelter for this woman, and not to turn her into a servant or expose her to the wild world.

When a husband and wife understand God’s original design for bringing them together, they will allow mutual love and help, respect, tolerance, forgiveness, openness, sincerity and peace to lead them since these are the qualities that will help them to realize God’s dream for them. They will also realize that divorce and all the factors that contribute to it are not in their best interest. In fact they will understand that pushing themselves towards divorce means working against God’s plan for them, for it is not the will of God for any sacramental marriage to be broken. What God has joined together, no man should divide, Jesus warned.  

It is true that the actions of imperfect humans cannot really be perfect; yet, the challenges caused by imperfection in marriage can be overcome through God’s grace and Christian virtues. Problems in marriage could be resolved mutually and with godly intent to make amends.

Divorce might appear to be the right and quickest solution to marital problems, but this has proven not to be true in most cases. Divorce doesn’t often guarantee peace of mind; it doesn’t guarantee success in next marriage either. That explains why many divorced people have remarried and still divorced many times, and also why many divorced couples are yet to find their peace. Therefore, attention should be on identifying and fixing the factors that contribute to divorce. They would include inability to compromise; violence; lack of mercy, compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, peace, mutual respect and help; selfishness and greed; dishonesty; immaturity; and lack of value for God’s will. If we watch against these vices, we can save our marriages from divorce.

We sympathize with couples who are going through difficulties in their marriage, and pray for them in today’s Mass that God will grant them the grace, strength and wisdom to recover peace and love in their marital homes. Amen.

Peace be with you.

Fr Isaac Chima.

 

 27^TH SUNDAY, YEAR B: HOMILY BY FR JUSTIN ADIELE

THEME: “JOINED TO UNDERSTAND AND HELP EACH OTHER”

INTRODUCTION:

Today, the readings dwelt on the sacrament of matrimony which joins a man and a woman together as husband and wife; a union that should be fueled by love and characterized by understanding and mutual helpmate. Both spouses must continue to be useful, beneficial, relevant, and source of relief to each other. This sacrament or union is also being attributed to the union between Jesus and the Church; which is undying, enduring, inseparable and eternal.

 

THE FIRST READING (GEN. 2: 18 – 24)

The first reading proposed that it is not good that a man should be alone. The primordial background (reason) that led to the institution of marriage was to find a helper fit for man. Hence, God started creating other animals, but none was suitable as a helper fit for man. Then the woman was made to fill this gap; the gap of a helpmate. To perfectly live out the married life, couples must try to understand the word “HELPMATE”. The word “helpmate” connotes collaboration, companionship, partnership, and mutual support and assistance. Husband and wife must learn to work together as a team, or the marriage union will continue to shake and break. No party should enslave, abuse or over indulge the other. Little wonder the first reading concluded with these phrases that perfectly described how the marriage union should operate; “this at last is the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”; “the two become one flesh”. The simplest interpretation of these phrases is: treat your spouse as your own body, flesh, and bone. Treat her or him not even as a pet, but as you would treat yourself.

 

THE SECOND READING (HEB. 2: 9 – 11)

The second reading validated the claim that marriage is like the union between Jesus and the Church; he who sanctifies and those who are sanctified become one body and of one origin. To perfect our union with him, Jesus had to lower himself, lower than the angels up to our suffering human state; he was never ashamed to call us brethren, nor be like us. If you cannot lower yourself to your spouse level for better collaboration, then there is no need entering into marriage. A dictator, an egoist and a superiority/authority maniac will always make a mess of the marriage institution. (We all know how Jesus shared his authority and mission with his Apostles without any prejudice). Many marriages fail/crash today because some couples refuse to lower their egos/authority over their partner. Without prejudice to the head of the family, we must also cultivate and maintain the atmosphere of equality among couples.

 

THE GOSPEL READING (MK. 10: 2 – 16)

In the gospel reading, Jesus reiterates the indissolubility of marriage. This implies that couples should understand each other and learn how to make their marriage work out. Again the picture of little children pops up as a quality also required for marriage to endure. Having the child mentality, that is; the ability to lower our egos; the ability to relate freely and cheerfully; the inability to keep scores of wrongs; the inability to bear malice/evil, can really sustain the marriage union.

 

CONCLUSION

A couple returned from celebrating their fortieth wedding anniversary with their children and friends. In the night, the husband tried to play the chef and offered to make a late night snack for his wife. Both headed for the kitchen where the wife sat down to observe what her husband wanted to conjure. He collected ham, cheese, mustard and the last four slices of bread from the refrigerator. He carefully made two sandwiches and cut each in quarters, the way she liked them. He place one of the sandwiches on a plate and placed it in front of her. “How come you always give me the sandwich with the heel of the bread?” she said. “Forty years we have been married and you always give me the heel of the bread.” I know I have never complained before, but honey, I really hate the heel of the bread. Feeling a bit embarrassed, the husband retorted; “I always give you the heel of the bread because it’s my favorite piece.” She automatically changed from feeling offended to feeling honored. Your marriage needs communication, endurance, understanding, love, mutual service, and giving of your best to your spouse!

Happy Sunday!

Fr. Justin

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 27^th Sunday, Year B: Reflection by Fr Julian Ekeh

THEME: CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE IS A BLESSING: ENJOY IT!

(Mark 10:2-16)

The Church, in her wisdom, wants us to reflect on the holy union between the man and the woman. The readings of today open our eyes to the sanctity, dignity, and goodness of the Christian marriage.

In a world where people believe that 'alụjuo can go' (the couple can quit the marriage when they feel); In a society where many advisers on marriage are giving a lot of teachings to discourage people from going into it, at a time people advertise single parenting (Baby mama) and contract relationships, Jesus invites us to see the beauty of marriage.

In the midst of all the social media conferences, personal opinions, and institutionalized wrong beliefs, Jesus takes those who belong to Him aside to reveal to them the original plan of God for marriage. But before taking them aside, He was confronted with the problems facing marriage at the time.

What are the problems today that make people distrust Christian union of the man and woman?

 

MAN QUESTIONS GOD ON MARRIAGE

Many questions on Christian marriage continue to pour out from the heart of man. The Pharisees who came to Jesus today represent the many camps firing questions on the Church regarding marriage. At their own time, just as it is today, divorce was the central issue. They asked to know from Christ if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife. They were ready to back up their claims with an authority: Moses. Jesus immediately asked them what Moses had to say on that matter. Their reply was that: Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to put her away.

At the tribunals of our various churches today, many couples are filing in papers for divorce, which is not a language of the Church. Society has made people normalize "dividing what God has joined together."

In our own African context, men will come to Jesus to ask: Is it lawful for a man to marry one wife? Is it fine for a man to keep a woman that gives him only female children? Is it okay for a man to live childless in marriage? What happens to my family name and lineage if I fail to have a son of my own?

Some other matters arising in marriage today revolve around having or not having money; can there be a happy marriage without money?

Today, some would dare to ask Jesus: Why can't we enjoy multiple sexual relationships while in marriage? Why can't you bless homosexual marriage for us? What is wrong in being married to my brother, sister, or even my dog?

The questions are numberless.

GOD'S REPLY TO MAN

Jesus Christ answered the questions on marriage by taking the people to the drawing board. Only an author can interpret his book better. Only a designer can explain his work best. Moses was not the institutor of marriage. God the creator Himself was.

Jesus, therefore, explained to them why Moses did what he did: "For your hardness of heart." Are there people still hardening their hearts to the teachings of Christ on marriage? Are there Christians forcing the powers of the Church to rewrite the injunctions on marriage? Are there people questioning why there should be a marriage course for stipulated months? Are people asking: Why must the Church discourage premarital sex? Why is it not advisable to cohabit before the marriage is blessed? Have such persons hardened their hearts persuading and pressing for their wills to be done and not the will of God as revealed in the Holy Scriptures? Are there some of them who have said: "To hell with the Church?"

The man Moses may have allowed you to have your way, but God in Christ frowns at it. Thus, He insists on what was there in the beginning.

In the beginning at Eden, God made the man and the woman one, not the man and man or woman and woman. God willed that they remained one till natural death. God willed that they enjoy the fruit of their union together. God willed that together, they may raise their children in the fear of God, to know and serve God. Over and above all, God willed that they love each other unconditionally and that this should be the basis of their union. Thus, whether good or bad, in poverty or riches, in good health and sickness, they must cling to one another, support each other, complement themselves and feel the pains and joys of the partner always.

 

BE ENCOURAGED IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Marriage is never easy when you live it alone. It is not good for the man to be alone, says the word of God. The man here could be understood generically to embrace man and woman. Thus, alone without God in marriage, there must be problems. Next, alone without the companionship of each other, there must equally be difficulties. When Eve tried staying alone without Adam, we saw what the devil did. When Adam started going out without Eve, we saw how it ended.

 

Couples, help each other. Remain best friends to yourselves. Forgive one another many times. Talk with one another. Don't allow a gap in communication. Do not be selfish. Pray together in order to always stay together. Manage with the little you have. Make your children love you equally.

Those yet to marry, pray, open your eyes, and find the man or woman that will understand you and you, understand him or her. Be disposed to get other characters when you start living together. Dispose yourself to be tolerant. Don't be scared to marry. The grace will follow you as you journey along with the Lord. Let love lead.

 

BENEDICTION

May the Lord bless and keep your unions.

May you live together happily to old age. May no one snatch your husband or wife away from you. May God give you the grace to face the challenges you encounter in your marriage. May we all encourage married people and give them the spiritual support they need to enjoy their marriage. May the youths desiring marriage find the husbands and wives of their dreams in accordance with the will of God. May the hardship and difficulties, together with the erroneous teachings in our world today, not destroy the joy and the institution of marriage through Christ our Lord. Amen

Happy Sunday (27th Week, Ordinary Time, Yr B)

Rev Fr Julian O Ekeh