24TH SUNDAY, YEAR A: REFLECTION BY FR. JULIAN EKEH
THEME: THE HARD TEACHING ON FORGIVENESS
(Matthew18:21-35)
Peter is always presenting the problem of
the community of believers. He usually comes as a person, but at a closer study
of the problems he presents, one would also hear the voice of many other
persons or groups of persons.
Today, the problem is on forgiveness. To
forgive is divine, to err is human. Peter may have come to be congratulated for
even forgiving at all. He may have come to show Jesus Christ that he has
started observing the new law of turning the other cheek as against the Judaic
observance of an eye for an eye, tooth for tooth. To put the question “how
many?” implies that he must have been offended more than once, and yet he
forgave. To suggest seven times to Jesus could mean that he is patiently
waiting for the last chance to strike. These are all human limitations and
human ways of accepting the teaching on forgiveness.
HUMAN PERCEPTION OF FORGIVENESS
It is often said “there is a limit to what
a man can take”. This is true. Basing our argument here, we come up with human
logics like “evula ako’ (ihe o ga eme gi ugboro ole, gi amuru ihe?
How many times will something happen to you, before you learn from it?), “nke
ato ya ato” (three is the last chance), “otu ezuola” (one is enough,
once beaten twice shy).
Our human wisdom suggests numberless ideas
to us. We may hear it from our voice within or from people around us: Julian,
are you not foolish to forgive this person again? Do you know what next he/she
will do after this one? Do you want to experience this heartbreak again? Why
not leave him or her alone and be on your own? Okay, what about just telling
him or her “I have forgiven you” just to stop him from the disturbance of
pleading and yet keep the grudges?
In our human wisdom, we most of the time go
to the extreme of saying “over my dead body”. This statement is indeed what
leads to seizing by the throat, which we saw in today’s gospel. It may also
lead to another expression “it is over”.
The
ordinary human response to offences is “seizing by the throat”. When he makes
up his mind to do the seizing, he forgets that he has once or twice been a
victim. He must have offended others at one time or the other. He also tries to
keep God aside. Thus, we often hear around us; keep God aside, keep religion,
keep Christianity aside, “M mechaa gi ya, ọ kwa ihea I merem?” I will
show you. With the empowerment we’ve got by the person’s offence towards us, we
decide really to deal with him. Do we have that power? No. the only power given
to us is the power to forgive and let go.
WHY YOU MUST FORGIVE; DIVINE PERSPECTIVE
Having heard the human perspective, seen
the various human responses to offence and sin, Jesus comes from above with
divine wisdom to help us tackle the problem of unforgiving spirit. He makes it
clear to us that we are not angels and we are not living with angels, and as
such, we must be offended at one time or the other. He underscores the fact
that these offences will not set any boundary to forgiveness. He says: Mr.
Peter, keep forgiving; Fr. Julian, don’t get tired of forgiving.
WAIT A MINUTE GOD
But God, wait a minute, you mean I should
continue forgiving that nagging wife of mine? You mean I should allow this man
who destroyed my car to go? You mean I should pardon this woman who accused me
falsely after suffering for what I never did?
My dear, God will say it is not easy
humanly speaking, but with me, all things are possible. Yes, forgive. You've
got the grace to do so. On the cross, I forgave them and excused them on
grounds that they knew not what they did. Stephen, one of you forgave his
murderers and prayed for them, Pope John Paul II forgave the man who wished him
dead, who shot him. Find a space in your heart and forgive my child. I know how
heartbroken you are. I know how painful you feel right now, and I know how
wounded you're right now. Try forgiveness.
FORGIVENESS HEALS YOU
Forgiveness heals you: when you forgive, you
free yourself. You begin anew, you become light, you heal two persons for
Christ, yourself and the offender. It is a great miracle. It is not easy, but
stand on the grace of God and let go not for the offender's sake but for God’s
sake.
Remember, child of God, the golden rule of
doing unto others as you will want others do unto you. ("Onweghi onye
siri shiwere ya mmiri oku na ya gaje ida elu"). You will err someday,
you will offend people too. You will expect them to forgive you just as you
offend God on a daily basis and pray “forgive us our trespasses”. So do not
forget those who trespass against you. They, too, are pleading for mercy whether
they say it or not. Be a child of your heavenly Father who is full of
compassion, slow to anger, and abounding in love.
FORGIVENESS ATTRACTS DIVINE FAVOURS
Forgiveness opens the gates of heaven for
favours to rain down. When Jesus forgave on the cross, the heavens opened for
Him, and for those he forgave. When Stephen forgave, he saw the opened heavens.
When you forgive, it will surprise you what great peace you will experience. So
forgive yourself, your wife, your husband, your boss, etc.
STOP OFFENDING
But come, yea, I mean you. Why do you
derive joy in constantly offending others and tempting them not to forgive?
Change! stop hurting people, especially knowingly stop pushing people to the
wall. Know how fragile the heart is and don’t play with it. Have you offended anyone?
Ask for forgiveness. "I am sorry" alone can do a lot of wonders. Be
humble. Be calm. Don't allow anger and pride to take the lead. Do not also be
stone-hearted when you are asked for forgiveness.
May God bless His word in our hearts.
LET US PRAY
As you take the decision today to forgive
and receive forgiveness, may God almighty have mercy on you, forgive you your
sins, and bring you true peace, positive growth, and life everlasting. All
these we ask through Christ our Lord. Amen
HAPPY SUNDAY (24TH WEEK, ORDINARY TIME,
YEAR A)
REV. FR. JULIAN O EKEH
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